The Ways of the Lord Are Not Fair
Matthew 21: 28-32
“What do you think? There was a man who had two sons. He went to the first and said, ‘Son,
go and work today in the vineyard.’ “‘I will not,’ he answered, but later he changed
his mind and went. “Then the father went to the other son and said the same thing. He
answered, ‘I will, sir,’ but he did not go. “Which of the two did what his father wanted?”
“The first,” they answered. Jesus said to them, “Truly I tell you, the tax collectors and the
prostitutes are entering the kingdom of God ahead of you. For John came to you to
show you the way of righteousness, and you did not believe him, but the tax collectors
and the prostitutes did. And even after you saw this, you did not repent and believe him.
(The mass reading for this past Tuesday (Dec 13) has always troubled me. I think my problem is, I take the Bible very personally. I think God really is speaking to us (to all of us) through His word and I find it sometimes very challenging and very troubling (and very personal). For instance, here I see myself in both of these brothers. And so, here are a few thoughts on the Gospel. I prepared them for a homiletic class I was taking. Let me know what you think.)
The ways of the Lord are not fair…
There were two sons. And one day their father asked each to go out
to the vineyard and work. The first son
said, NO.
Maybe his NO meant, I don’t have time right now. Maybe it
meant, I have other plans.
Maybe his NO meant I was hoping to take a nap.
I was going to hang out with my friends. Maybe it meant: The
ways of the Lord are not fair!
But in the end,
he repented and went to the vineyard and did what the father asked.
The second son
said, YES, SIR. Very politely. Very respectfully. Possibly even sincerely. And yet he didn’t go. He didn’t do what his
father wanted.
The ways of the Lord are not fair.
Two sons. Two calls to action. And
two very different reactions.
Which son are you?
Are you the one
who says YES, maybe with the best of intentions, but somehow you just don’t do
it?
Or are you the one
who says NO, perhaps you even make a fuss and say, “No way! I am not going to
wash those dishes or take out that trash or clean the cat litter. Again! It’s not fair! Why am I always the one who
has to do it? I washed the dishes last
night! It’s just not fair.” But then… after you’re done fussing… the next thing
you know you’re drying your hands and the dishes are done, the trash is out… or
maybe you’ve trained the cat to change its own litter…
Which
son are you?
And
what about those of us who say YES… We don’t mean to be hypocrites, do we? Aren’t there always extenuating
circumstances? Isn’t it possible that the
YES son really meant to do what his father told him? Isn’t it possible he even set out immediately
for the vineyard with the best of intentions but got distracted? Maybe he met a
servant with news that the goats were loose and wandering in the street again
or maybe there was a shepherd offering to round up the missing goats but he had
needed his 1099 form signed and then a peddler came to the door selling GPS
tracking devices for wandering goats so they’d never get lost again… You see.
There are lots of reasons why the second son may have neglected his YES
to the father. Extenuating
circumstances… right?
By
golly, if I were that second son, I might start thinking: The ways of the Lord
are not fair!
So
which one are you?
Well,
I’ll tell you which one I am. Like most
of you, probably, I’m both. How many
times have I said, NO, but then had a change of heart and done what I was asked
anyway?
And how many times
have I said YES but for some reason or another I just didn’t do it… Sadly, I
couldn’t even begin to count. A perfect
example from my own life would be prayer.
How many times have I promised God that I would spend more time in
prayer, if only He would help me with whatever trouble I was in? How many times
have I promised to get up 30 minutes early to pray if only God will… fill in
the blank!… Help me find my keys… Make the policeman not notice that I just ran
a red light… And in that moment of
promise, that moment of desperation I am always very sincere. Yet, how quickly
after the emergency passes do I begin to realize that my promises to God… My
YES to God was unrealistic? I can’t get
up early to pray because I stayed up too late cleaning the cat litter and
washing the dishes… Anyway, if I don’t get enough sleep, I’ll be cranky. And
God doesn’t want me to be cranky. And
after all, I intended to do it! I meant
YES when I said it. I really did! I just… I just… I just didn’t do it. Does
that ever happen to you?
So, truly brothers
and sisters… I am both sons.
So…
what’s the big deal? We all do it. We all act like both… sometimes… Anyway,
it’s pretty clear which one is the better son… The first one. The one who said
NO. Even the elders and the high priests
tell Jesus that son at least did the father’s will. He at least went to the
vineyard and worked.
And there is
something to be said for that. But, there
is a risk in it too… saying NO can become a habit… Think of a two year old who
has just learned a new word... And we
all know how hard habits can be to break.
They become part of us. They begin to shape us, to form our character
and our conscience… We may start off saying NO simply as a way of asserting
ourselves; you can’t boss me around. You can’t tell me what to do. I’m not
your servant! It’s our pride… Then one day
–instead of repenting and going to the vineyard to work-- we just keep saying
NO. It’s become a way of life.
And, clearly there
is also a risk in saying YES. Late one
Sunday night our next door neighbor called.
She was in the hospital. She felt anxious, alone. No family or friends visiting
her. She was afraid. When my wife got off the phone she asked me if I would go visit
this neighbor in the hospital. Without hesitating, I said, “YES. I’ll go
tomorrow night.” But then Monday night came
and the washing machine was acting up and I had to fix it, and then it was
dinner time and after that I was supposed to join a conference call to discuss
a presentation. And then Tuesday night came and we had parent teacher
conferences at school, so we didn’t get home until after 8pm. Then Wednesday
night there was class at the seminary and then suddenly it was Friday and I
realized I hadn’t thought of our neighbor for two days. But by then she was already home. I had meant to live me YES, but I didn’t do
it. And that too can become a way of
life. We say YES to so many things, good
things, important things… constantly YES… but it’s unrealistic… and it can
become a habit. A way of making ourselves look good and asserting our
importance, by showing the world how busy we are…Look at all the important
things I do (or plan to do)… And yet I forgot to make time for my neighbor who was
sick, and lonely and afraid…
Which son are we supposed to be?
Well, there is one
more son in today’s Gospel—a son we haven’t talked about yet—the one telling
the story. Jesus is also the son of the Father.
And He truly is our model, the model for all sons and all daughters
everywhere. When his Father calls Him to go to the vineyard not only does He
say YES, but He lives YES. As Paul tells us in his letter to the Philippians (2:1-11): This Son
empties
himself, and takes on the form of a slave.
He submits completely to the will of the Father “… becoming
obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.” That is our
model, hanging there on that cross on your wall or in any church, that is our model --complete self-emptying to the will of God. That is how we are called to live. That is the son we are called to be. We are
called to say YES, and we are called to live it.
God's YES
to us hangs on that cross; it is a YES that died for our sins.
Ask yourself:Are the ways of
the Lord unfair?
You bet they are. Blessed be the ways of the Lord.